January 22

How to deal with Resentment

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Resentment, whether being received or given, seems to be a natural tendency most human beings have towards one another. In fact, it may happen to us on a daily basis without us even being consciously aware of it. When you perceive another individual as having something you don’t, or thinking that this other person is better than you in some way or form, a natural reaction that tends to form is resentment (along with jealousy).

What is resentment? Similar to jealousy, although not quite identical, resentment is the act of trying to chop someone down a few levels in order to even the playing field. For example, when I first made the switch to a vegetarian diet, I was met with a lot of resentment from family members and even friends. Because these people saw the positive effects such a diet was having on my body, instead of feeling happy for me, they brought forth a wall of resentment. They belittled my diet at every chance they got, and then they’d purposely try and nitpick my physique, looking for any flaw that exposed itself.

I also noticed a similar experience years ago when I started picking up the slack with my physical fitness. People that I once considered friends seemed to radiate a competitive vibe around me as if they were threatened because I wanted to get in shape.

To be perfectly honest, acting that way is something I have a very difficult time relating to. Anytime a family member accomplishes a goal, from losing weight to elevating themselves financially, I feel a great deal of happiness for that person. Resentment is the last thing on my mind, and being competitive with them just seems absurd to me. Their successes rub off on my character, and I especially like it if I knew I played a hand in helping them along the way. If I didn’t harbor this kind of mindset, chances are I wouldn’t be running this site, like helping people succeed is the core value of what I do.dealing with resentment

 Spotting Resentment

It’s one thing when a complete stranger acts this way to you, as most of the time you can easily shrug it off, but it’s an entirely different story when it’s someone who is close to you. It’s almost as if their resentment is putting a strain on your relationship, threatening to break it apart at any moment. On one side, you have your goals and successes, and on the side, you have this other individual pulling you down. If you become TOO successful, this other person may grow to dislike you even more, and you risk losing this person from your life. On the other side of the spectrum, if you hold yourself down to this individual’s level, you won’t be able to successfully grow into the kind of person you want to become.

So what can you do?

I think the answer is probably pretty obvious, but in case it’s not I’ll spell it out for you: Don’t ever hold yourself back for another person. It would be one thing if your success were hurting the other person, but if somebody is going to harbor resentment towards you simply because you’ve succeeded more than they have, they aren’t worth having in your life to begin with. True friends and supportive family members should be happy when you’ve crossed a new boundary or accomplished one of your goals, not feel threatened and insecure.

Another problem with resentment is that others may actually try and bring you down to their level in a multitude of ways. In regards to this site, for example, I’ve had others openly criticize the idea of starting and running a personal growth and development website; saying how what I was doing wasn’t “true” work and that all this personal development mumbo jumbo was just a waste of time. To be productive, I needed a REAL job. I needed to suffer in the workplace a bit because that’s how REAL people etched out a living. Instead of being happy at the success my website was receiving, these people were jealous and resentful, wanting me to suffer at the workplace in the same manner they did.

Dealing With Resentment

When it comes to dealing with resentment however, the easiest way in doing so is to just brush it off. Don’t let it get under your skin or bother you, and CERTAINLY don’t let it dictate your course of action. If you change what it is you’re doing because of something a resentful person told you, then you’ve just shifted all your power into their hands. While it may sound difficult to just “brush it off,” once you’ve identified it for what it is, it really becomes pretty easy.

If I know someone is upset or frustrated with me, not for something I’ve done towards them, but for something I have that they don’t, then there’s no point in me getting upset over it. How can I apologize to somebody when I haven’t done anything to them in the first place? Also keep in mind that because most resentment doesn’t step from physical possessions, it may be hard to understand what is the other person is resentful towards in the first place. It could be something stupid, like another male being taller than them, or perceiving another female as being more attractive. It’s usually not that new car you bought or those new shoes you’re wearing, but rather a piece of your unique character.

Of course, if you have something that others don’t, don’t needlessly flaunt it just for the sake of doing so; that makes you no better than the person who’s being resentful. With that in mind, don’t fear you’ve become some big jerk either just because someone else doesn’t approve of your actions or what you have. Generally these types of people are not worth even taking into consideration, as it’s clear they base their decisions around superficiality anyways. You don’t ever need the approval of another person, and you certainly don’t need them being an influencing factor in your personal decisions.Dealing with resentment is like battling against something that isn’t there, something you can’t see or touch. You only know it’s there when people express it, but aside from that it’s like a force that moves against your control. Don’t try and resist resentment from others, just allow it to pass through you and continue doing what you’re doing; in the end you’ll realize it was never worth fighting anyways.

Dealing with resentment is like battling against something that isn’t there, something you can’t see or touch. You only know it’s there when people express it, but aside from that it’s like a force that moves against your control. Don’t try and resist resentment from others, just allow it to pass through you and continue doing what you’re doing; in the end you’ll realize it was never worth fighting anyways.

January 20

The Importance of Social Skills

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Of all the skills a person can develop, I think the single most useful category would have to be social skills. There are few skills in life that can advance you as far as well developed social skills can, and even if you’re one of the quietest people around, having strong social skills is still crucial in your day-to-day lifestyle.

It’s easy to equate high social skills with meeting new people and going out with friends, as we have this tendency to think that social people are constantly out and about in the company of others. There’s certainly a lot of truth to that depending on the individual, but the reality is, even a hermit is going to have to communicate with others at some time or another. We’re all social creates, it’s just we express that at different levels. Some people can’t make a single decision in life without having to tell 10 of their closest friends, while other people are more reserved and keep to themselves the majority of the time. Either way, a time is going to arise when you’re social skills are going to be put to the test, and if you find they’re not up to par with where you want them to be, you may begin to miss out on important opportunities.

This doesn’t mean that having strong social skills is the end-all-be-all of traits a person can possess, but what it does mean is that this person is very capable of networking with others and identifying like-minded people easier. Someone in possession of strong social skills will have a much easier time making friends, developing a social circle, and branching out then someone who lacks these particular skills.

A Medium for Communication

This is because we all have things we need to say and express, things we need to tell others and things others need to tell us. When you’re in possession of strong social skills, it becomes much easier to convey those messages across to others, and in turn, actually get your point across.

It’s like if two people are giving a speech on the same topic; one person may be enthusiastic and keep the audience fully engaged while the other person may mumble and stumble their way along. Each speaker is equally versed on the facts of the topic, but the speaker who can keep his audience engaged and interested is probably going to have a much easier time relaying his point across.

Imagine going to the doctor and simply saying “I don’t feel well” and leaving it at that. In order to properly diagnose you, the doctor is going to have to do a lot of guess work. In comparison, imagine walking in the door and being able to describe exactly what the issue is in specific detail. Which do you think will lead to a more preferable outcome?

Strong social skills are a lot like that. Even the quietest individual knows what he or she WANTS to say, it’s just they find they CAN’T say it. They lack that medium of communication, the means of converting their thoughts and ideas into words. Quiet, shy, or socially anxious people are by no means stupid, and despite popular belief, it’s not that they “don’t know what to say,” but rather they don’t know HOW to say it. There have more than likely been times you’ve gotten up to speak in front of a large group of people, only to find that as you’re up there speaking you feel nervous and unsettled. Why? It’s just talking… the same we do every day, whether we’re talking to ourselves in the shower or having a conversation with our best friend. I mean, you get up there and you KNOW what you want to say, it’s not like you’re being quizzed by a panel of judges here, yet you still can’t help but feel a bit uneasy. What gives?

It’s because you lack the skills to do so, and whether that lack stems from a lack of confidence or some other source, it’s the same thing people who lack strong social skills go through on a consistent basis. They know what they WANT to say, they just don’t know how to get it across properly. They haven’t developed the proper foundation for doing so, and so in the process of converting their thoughts into words, issues arrive and the message may not be in the same form they had hoped for.

Obviously, this doesn’t mean that if I say “I want some ice-cream” that “I want a slice of pizza” is going to come out instead. It means that I’m going to have a hard time initiating conversation or responding to conversation initiated by others. Without strong social skills, not only will I miss an abundance of opportunities to connect myself with others, but I may not even notice those options are available to me. It’s like when you see a woman flirting with a man and he’s completely oblivious to it… half the time it’s not that he isn’t interested, it’s just that he doesn’t even notice it was taking place right in front of him. Without strong social skills, all those opportunities to connect well with others fly right by you and you’re never able to take advantage of them. This means potentially missed relationships, business deals, or even just good friends. I’ve met some of my closest of friends in the oddest of places, and if that particular spark of conversation had never been started, that person would be missing from my life. Of course, you can’t miss what you don’t have, but a socially enriched life is much more fulfilling than a life by yourself.

Being Shy is no Fun

I spent a good number of years being “shy” when it came to socializing, and people often mistook that for a lack of interest. There could be an exciting conversation taking place right next to me, and although I WANTED to join it, I just didn’t know how. Not only were my social skills severely lacking, but I eventually developed this mentality of “that’s just me.” As if it were permanent and could never be fixed, that being a quiet person was just something I was and that was that. Of course, ask most shy people, and they’ll tell you it’s not an enjoyable way to live life, it’s not something they actively do by choice. Instead, most lack the strong social skills needed to breach from that cocoon, and so they eventually get stuck in the mindset that it’s “acceptable” to live that way. Of course, it certainly IS acceptable if you truly enjoy keeping to yourself most of the time, but most people will probably find that sort of lifestyle dull and possibly even depressing. Many shy people also find they’re caught in some kind of vicious cycle, as they’re often shy because they lack confidence in dealing with others, with that lack of confidence stemming from having weak social skills. While this means that taking the first step is going to be difficult for some, it’s still very possible. I used to go through periods of my life feeling extremely withdrawn from the world, and yet these days I feel cramped up and restless if I’m unable to make plans with people.

As was mentioned above, like many things in life, you can’t miss what you don’t have. If you lack strong social skills, you may not even realize you lack in such a department. You won’t feel upset over missed opportunities because you won’t even they passed, never having seen them in the first place. It’s like trying to miss a friend or family member you never had; how can you miss something that never existed in the first place? Without strong social skills, most opportunities for connection with others will never be created in the first place, so it’s very easy to look at your life now and assume everything is normal. The truth is, you have to listen to your gut instinct. If you find yourself craving that interaction with others when it’s not around, maybe it’s time to take a break from some of your other activities and focus those efforts on your social skills instead.social skills

Developing Social Skills is Fun

Another reason having strong social skills is so important is because it serves as an avenue for fun and entertainment. Few people probably wake up in the morning and say I’m going to develop my social skills today! And instead, most people develop such skills through their daily interactions. In developing your social skills, they sky’s the limit when it comes to choosing an avenue to do so. It doesn’t have to be this intimidating, threatening experience; rather it should be something you actually like doing. Whether in the form of attending a club, group, or workshop, or simply making an effort to fill your free time up with friends instead of television, developing your social skills should be something you find enjoyable. Perhaps you want to take a class at a local university or make an attempt to further your education, either of which would provide you with plenty of opportunities to develop your social skills. Remember it’s not always about how many friends you can make, but simply SOCIALIZING with others. Of course, making new friends and forging new relationships is a definite plus, but as long as you can progress your social skills from what they were to something better, you’re on the right track.

Of all the skills one can develop, I’d definitely put social skills in the number one spot, and at the very least somewhere in the top 3. Few skillsets are capable of opening up such a wealth of information and range of experiences, all while developing themselves via sources of enjoyment. Don’t be afraid of what somebody MAY think of you, instead, focus on keeping those channels of communication open at all times. Make an effort to speak to nearly everyone you meet, from the mailman to the clerk at the grocery store to your neighbor taking out the trash. You have the entire world to gain, and absolutely nothing to lose.

January 17

How to Develop Self Respect

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It’s often said that in order to respect someone else you have to first respect yourself. That you have to develop a level of self-respect and become comfortable with your own actions before you can become comfortable around others. In other words, you have to get to know yourself before you can get to know someone new.

While at times this comes across as rather a cliché, the truth is, it’s pretty sound advice. If you can’t develop a level of self-respect for yourself, it’s going to be awfully hard to develop it for another person. More so than that, when we can respect ourselves, we, in turn, become much more confident individuals. We become more honest with ourselves and those around us, and at the same time, we also become more authoritative. When you’ve learned to respect yourself, you don’t let others push you around or make decisions for you. Since you’re intelligent enough to make your own choices and to form your own opinions, you’re also less susceptible to negative influence as well.

The problem is, EVERYBODY always thinks they’ve developed self-respect even when they haven’t. Very few people will openly come out and say “I don’t respect myself” even if that’s the case. In truth, most people that lack self-respect probably doesn’t even realize they lack such a trait; instead they think their opinion of themselves is right. This becomes dangerous, however, as it also affects your interactions with other people as well.

For example, if I lack self-respect and unconsciously think poorly of myself, then I’m much less likely to defend myself against the attacks of others. Someone with a high level of respect for themselves will easily deflect these kinds of attacks back at the attacker, but the person lacking self-respect will only absorb them. It’s like if someone calls you a name, do you simply shrug it off because you know it’s not true, or do your feelings get hurt because you feel what the other person is saying to be accurate? Once you’ve learned the value of your own worth, it becomes much easier to deflect the attacks and criticisms of others, and you’ll probably notice it happening a lot less too.

That’s also because people with a high degree of self-respect broadcast that in everything they do, from walking down the street to their conversations with others. There are some people out there that simply project an aura of confidence and authority, and if you’ve learned the value of your own self-worth then you’re definitely one of those people.

That being said, how does one go from lacking respect and confidence in themselves, to becoming an independent, self-respecting individual? Furthermore, if you lack that level of respect in yourself, how are you supposed to actually help others when they come to you in need?

It’s sort of like that friend (and everybody has one) who consistently tries to give dating advice, even though they seem to score the least amount of dates. Nobody ever wants to be mean to this person, but it’s hard to take advice from someone when it’s obviously not even working for them. Or like a dentist doing work on you when his own teeth are worse than yours. Sure, you can try and act like you know what you’re doing, but any attempt you make is going to look extremely flawed, even if your intentions are good.

In other words, if I haven’t developed that level of self-respect for myself, I can try and act like I respect others, but more than likely any efforts I make are going to fall short. It’s just not possible to do, and because of that your existing and potential relationships are going to suffer.

Actually Developing Self Respect

It’s easy to talk about self-respect, but actually putting it into action and developing it for yourself is an entirely different matter. It’s not just changing one specific thing about yourself, but it’s about taking on an entirely new mindset. In fact, you don’t have to change a single thing about yourself; not the way you dress, eat, or socialize. Rather, it’s viewing the things that you already do in a new light and looking at them for the strengths they give you instead of the strengths they don’t give you.

Admittedly, this seems easier on paper than it is to apply, but it’s actually not hard. Stop viewing the glass as half empty and instead see it as half full. Don’t focus on what you don’t have, but instead, focus on what you do have. If this seems incredibly simple, that’s because it is. You don’t need new friends, you don’t need a new job, you don’t need more money or a flashy new car; all you need is a more positive mindset. Like a lot of things, though, when people get stuck in a slump they often view the world through the lenses of negativity; that is, the bad always stares them in the face, and they can never seem to focus on the positive.

This leads to people seeing a world full of problems instead of the world full of opportunities, and so it’s no wonder these people let others push them around and dictate their life for them. They haven’t developed enough respect to make their own decisions, so somebody else is going to fill that gap and make those decisions for them.

The easiest way to remedy this is to simply branch out. Expand your comfort zone and begin doing new things in life. The more you do, the more you can see yourself accomplish, and the more confidence you’ll become in your abilities. It’s hard to develop any level of self-respect when you laze around all day because you’re never given a chance to see yourself in action, so any negative beliefs you have about yourself are never dispelled. When you actually get out and explore the world, seeing what you’re capable of, it’s hard NOT to respect yourself.

Besides, why shouldn’t you respect someone (you) who’s accomplished so much? If you’re doing the same thing over and over again, day after day, then, of course, you’re going to have a hard time developing that level of self-respect. If I told you that I had no real aspirations in life and was simply happy eating potato chips and sleeping on the couch all day, would you truly look at me with admiration? Probably not, and the same holds true for looking in the mirror as well.

It’s only when you’ve demonstrated to yourself just how far you can go that you can begin to develop a healthy level of self-respect, being both confident in your abilities and assured in knowing what you can do.

If you want an example of this first hand, look at how you feel when you’re cramped up in the house or the office all day, stuck without anything to do. Now compare that to a day where you’ve spent an abundance of time out and about doing a variety of things, and think about which day left you feeling more fulfilled in the end. The day that fed you with rich experiences or the day where you just watched the time go by? Which day do you think tested your skills more? Even if you don’t realize it, the most basic things such a socializing with friends give us a chance to reflect on how exceptional we are as individuals, and it’s through these channels that self-respect is developed. When you cut yourself off from the necessary tools, don’t expect to get the results you desire. If you truly want a healthy level of self respect (as you should) then get there and prove to YOURSELF just how capable you are.

January 12

How to dealing With the people that gives you Cold Shoulder

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I’m sure you understand quite well WHAT the cold shoulder is, and I’m sure you’ve also dealt with it a fair number of times. I can tell you I’ve certainly dealt with it plenty of times, and why the result is often unpleasant, usually there’s an underlying reason as to why it takes place.

The cold shoulder can come from friends, family members, coworkers, and worst of all — significant others. Of course, nobody ever expects the cold shoulder, and if they did, then it wouldn’t be the “cold shoulder” in the first place. That unexpected coldness or reluctance from another individual, usually causing you to question your actions and wonder what it is you did to upset this other person, often leaves us with a bad taste in our mouth.

…and why does it happen?

Why do we suddenly find ourselves victim to the cold shoulder? It usually doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out, but it DOES leave us with the question of:

Why Me?

Did I upset this other person? Did I offend them?

It’s easy to come up with a million and one “what if” situations in your mind, especially when your brain is in over-drive trying to find out what triggered all of this. To make matters worse, when somebody is avoiding you or won’t speak to you, it’s hard to narrow down your list as to what you could’ve possibly done. Yet dealing with the cold shoulder is actually much easier than most people think, and it’s generally their own actions, not the actions of the other person, that end up making things worse.

Granted, the other person may be the one acting childish, and maybe they don’t even have a reason to be giving you the cold shoulder. Maybe they just want attention or have some other need they secretly want to be fulfilled. Maybe the person giving you the cold shoulder doesn’t even know themselves why they’re doing what they’re doing.

Does that change things?

Not at all. The issue, when it comes to dealing with the cold shoulder, is that it’s up to YOU to resolve things. Why? Because you’re the one who feels compelled to contact this person.

If somebody I absolutely didn’t care about gave me the cold shoulder, or even somebody who was pretty low on my list of acquaintances, then I really wouldn’t care if they chose not to speak to me. That’s their issue, not mine, and it’s also the first thing you need to decide when dealing with this particular problem. If the person is a spouse or good friend, then you’re probably going to be a bit more motivated in getting past their defenses versus being a co-worker you could care less about.

That’s exactly why it rests on your shoulders. The other person’s shields are up, and it’s your decision on whether you want to attempt breaching those shields or not. Best case scenario: everything works out and things go back to normal. Worst case scenario: you end up looking like one of these people.

Dealing With The Cold Shoulder

But since dealing with the cold shoulder isn’t all that difficult, nor does it require any special knowledge about the other person, I’m not going to spend too much time going over scenarios. There’s really only one fundamental rule that works when someone is giving you the cold shoulder:

Ignore them

Ignore them? Seriously? While there are an abundance of different reasons someone could give you the cold shoulder, they generally fall into two categories: either the person wants attention, or the person truly doesn’t want to speak with you. If the person is seeking attention, that’s a whole problem in itself, and if the person truly doesn’t want to speak with you, then that’s an option they should be allowed to have. Pushing and prodding is certainly not going to speed up this process, nor is going to help “redeem” yourself. It not only makes you look desperate, but it also fails to produce any results. Constantly asking “why?” to each thing this individual does will usually put you in a deeper hole than you’re already in, and so it’s best to avoid under all circumstances.

Ignoring the person also lets them know that if they choose not to speak to you, then that’s their choice. You don’t look needy or dependent upon the other person, and most importantly of all, it shifts the weight back onto the other individual. Suddenly they realize that it’s now their turn to make a move and that if they choose not to communicate with you, then it’s going to be their issue to deal with. Assuming the person is giving you the cold shoulder because they’re genuinely upset or angry at you, this usually gives them the needed time to cool off, allowing them to approach you when they feel mentally and emotionally ready. If the person is doing it for attention, then letting them be is usually the easiest and most direct route. There’s no point in getting tangled up in somebody else’s emotional web because they need outside sources of attention. Anytime somebody gives me the cold shoulder, for this reason, I ignore them completely; not only freeing up myself but letting them know that I have no interest whatsoever in any immature mind games they wish to play.

And what if ignoring them doesn’t work? Chances are if you’ve fallen into that category then the person giving the cold shoulder is doing it more so for reasons of attention as opposed to having an issue with you. If this person only gets upset or outraged because YOU won’t make an attempt to communicate, even though THEY’RE the one severing communication in the first place, then just step away and let things be. At that point, there isn’t a whole lot you can do anyways, and you’ll be glad you’re didn’t get stuck with the burden of a problem that’s not yours.

January 6

Understanding the Importance of Sleep

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If there’s one thing I’ve really learned about myself in these past two weeks, it’s just how important an even sleep cycle is on my body.

Each night it seems I’ve been going to bed late and waking up even earlier. I used to think I could function on only 4-5 hours of sleep and still get through my day, but I’ve realized that unless I get a full 8-9 hours of sleep, I’m just not as energized as I could (or should) be. Different people may require less sleep than others, but I think the more you exhaust yourself mentally and physically, the longer it’s going to take to recharge your internal battery.

benefits of sleepThe problem is, like most American’s, I fell into the pattern of trying to sleep less and accomplish more. While it’s not a particularly enjoyable pattern to fall into, I can certainly understand why so many people DO fall into it. Even if we’re not consciously aware of it, we see this pattern all the time around us.

Look at the popular practice of college students staying up all night and cramming for an exam. Instead of sleeping an extra two hours that night, they’ll forego sleep altogether so they can put in extra study time. Smart? Definitely not. A wise time investment? Nope. At least beneficial for the sake of the exam….? Doubtful.

We don’t need to be a doctor to understand just how important sleep is for our body, but in case you’re wondering, let’s take a look at this example here:

Hours in a day – 24
Hours spent awake on average: 16-20
Hours spent asleep on average: 4-8

Now let’s assume you’re fully charged and ready to go. You just slept all night long like a baby, and you’re ready to tackle the world. You’ve just slept a solid 8 hours, and so that gives you 16 hours of “awake” time to accomplish whatever it is you need to do.

Curious to see how productive you can be with that amount of sleep? It’s easy if you follow this simple formula:

First of all, determine what your OPTIMAL sleep time is. For me, it’s a solid 8 hours, for other people it may be more or less.

Use your optimal sleep time as a reference, which is going to be the number 1.

So if I’ve just slept 8 hours, my optimal level, meaning I’m awake for 16 hours of the day, then 1 x 16 = 16.

My “productivity” rating is going to be 16. The higher the rating, the better. What if I had only slept 6 hours instead, though? Since 8 is my optimal sleep number, all I have to do is: 6/8 = 3/4

Since I’ve been awake for 18 hours now instead of 16, that means: 3/4 x 18 = 13.5

Which means my productivity has gone DOWN! Surprised? You really shouldn’t be, as the less you sleep, the more impaired your cognitive and physical skills are going to be throughout the day. Instead of being fully charged, you’re only partially charged and unable to operate at your full capacity. Sure, you may be able to perform mundane tasks in the same fashion as you could under optimal sleep conditions, but circumstances which require you to exert additional brain power or physical will are going to leave you severely lacking.

Another big myth is that you can just “catch up” on your missed sleep at once. If I decide tonight that I’m only going to sleep for 2 hours, and then tomorrow night that I’m going to sleep for my normal 8 hours, when I wake up on the third day I’m still going to be extremely tired. Two nights of sleep should leave me with 16 hours, but instead, I’ve only received 10 hours, which is putting me 6 below my optimal level.

In theory, I could sleep for 14 hours in an attempt to make up for that missed sleep, but sleeping for 14 hours at once is more than likely not going to happen. Even in my most exhausted state, 8-10 hours of sleep is all my body can manage to produce.

With that being said, obviously if we missed a few hours of sleep last month it’s not going to be still plaguing us to this very day; our bodies eventually adjust to it, and we move on. How big is that adjustment window though?

In my experience, usually a few days at most is all I need. If I only manage to get 5 hours of sleep one night, then the next few nights I’ll make sure to get an additional hour or two and before I know it I’m completely caught up. If you want a medical explanation, the actual answer is that it can last for up to two full weeks. Granted that’s mostly in extreme cases, but it can still plague people for quite some time.

What’s another big importance of sleep?

The influence it has on our physical fitness abilities.

For one, we only build muscle when we’re asleep. You can spend all day long working out at the gym, but if you don’t get a good night’s sleep, then it’s all going to go to waste. When we exercise, specifically in strength training, we’re actually tearing down our muscle fibers so that our body can rebuild them, this time, bigger and stronger. However that process of rebuilding is done when we sleep, and starving our body of proper sleep is essentially starving it of the proper resources to finish the job.

At best we won’t get the full benefits of our workout, and at worst, lack of sleep can actually cause us to gain weight. When the body is tired, it makes every attempt to naturally conserve energy, with one of those attempts being a decrease in your metabolism.

Instead of relying on caffeine so much to get you through the day, how about just getting enough sleep for once? Sure, nobody said you can’t enjoy your morning coffee now and again, but using it as a crutch to get through the day is both detrimental to your body and cutting you off from your own natural resources. Understand the importance of sleep, and you can easily understand the importance of a productive day.